Assessing Anxiety and Insecurity
Most people are familiar with the 1-10 pain scale that’s used to help others understand how much pain you are experiencing. I decided to take this concept, apply it to anxiety, and add more objective descriptions and examples to make it easier to help yourself and others understand how anxious you really are.
On "More Than Two" and #MeToo: How Should We Respond?
In February 2019, testimonies and stories of abuse were publicly released by some of the ex-partners of Franklin Veaux, one of the co-authors of the extremely popular book on polyamory More Than Two. In fact, one of the people that came forward was the other co-author of More Than Two, Eve Rickert. These former partners came together to tell their stories over the past year, with the majority of the details posted at or linked to from polyamory-metoo.com. In the wake of this, many people have been reeling, and trying to parse how they should move forward. Some people are shaken because of trust placed in someone that placed himself in a position of authority. Others are simply questioning whether they should even read or recommend More Than Two anymore.
On Anxiety and Polyamory
Dealing with anxiety (among other things) can be easiest as a community, not just on an individual level. When people are willing to work together, it tends to help all relationships involved. There is no room for a "Fuck you, got mine" mindset in an ethically polyamorous relationship.
We've All Been There: Common NRE Mistakes
The beginning of a new relationship is a great time. High on NRE, or New Relationship Energy, you feel like everything is perfect, and the other person is perfect for you. Usually little to no conflict, and the sex is amazing. What could possibly go wrong?
A lot, it turns out.
Don't you get jealous? The mono-poly perspective.
By and large, the most frequent question I get asked when I explain that my partner has multiple partners is, “But don’t you get jealous?”
